Getting Real: Past to Present
{image by me}
Since our move to the East Coast this past Summer life has felt like it's stuck on a roller coaster (with mostly downward dips). I could go on and on about that...but it's probably better if I don't. In any case, I've often found myself wistfully longing to be back in our home in California. I miss our small old town and the familiar life we built there...our neighborhood walks with berry picking, feather collecting and trips to the tiny one-room library two blocks away from our house. This sort of ache probably doesn't go away...at least not for a long while.
As much as I miss what we left behind I know that I'm not doing myself or my daughter any good by fixating on the way things were. Because of this I have been trying to remember that I can be thankful for what we had, but I need to live in this moment. This is the one I have. I am reminded of the Chinese proverb: “Do not anxiously hope for that which is not yet come; do not vainly regret what is already past.” It sounds so good in writing...but harder in practice. A lot of life is like that, right?!
So my question to you (if you'd like to answer it) is how do you personally deal with regret and longing for things of the past? I know that most of us probably deal with these feelings at some time in life...whether it is missing the easy friendships made in college, the carefree life you lead sans kids, etc. I'm excited to hear what you have to share. xo Ez







