Curveball
Hello lovelies! I want to fill you in on the need for my emergency blog break last week. I won't be able to share every single detail because of time (and I really don't want to bore you all), but will do the best I can to explain.
To begin with, my daughter and I are moving again...in 7 days! We only found out just last week and I've been frantically trying to throw everything into boxes and tie up ends that I thought I'd have another 4 months to tie up. The background story is this:
Last Summer we moved across the country from our home in California to start what we hoped would be a fun and fresh start for us here on the East Coast. From day one things started to go wrong. First it was the black slime coming up into our kitchen sink making the room unusable. The fridge gave out shortly thereafter. Next it was the bathtub drain, and then nasty stuff started to come up our bathroom sink as well. From outside appearances this place is not a dump, so we had no idea what we were in for when we rented the place out. I wish that was the entirety of the situation. Unfortunately our apartment is also sandwiched in between two sets of unsavory neighbors that I wouldn't wish on anyone. On one side we are assaulted by the daily barrage of their screaming fights coupled by the strong scent of marijuana and cigarette smoke that seems to seep through our walls. Second (not as bad) is our neighbor who likes to wake me up early in the morning by ringing my doorbell incessantly until I answer...and then proceeds to go into tirades about the alarm system in her unit...asking if I ever hear it go off, etc, etc (completely nuts).
Next, I've been having some health issues that are making blogging/work very difficult and painful for me...and I strongly suspect that these are in great part due to the growing stress I've been under over the past 8 months.
Finally...and the reason for this sudden acceleration in our moving schedule (we were already planning to get out of here when the lease ended in July)...is that my daughter has been suffering from horrible bullying at her school. If you follow me on twitter then you know a bit about what has been going on for her. I've also just posted a more detailed infor in this post earlier today. Basically any attempts I've made to have the threats, verbal and emotional abuse stopped by the school went nowhere. The last straw came this past Tuesday when my daughter was thrown against the wall by a girl in her class. After she crumpled to the floor in pain a lunch aid came over to see what had happened and told my daughter that she would report the attack. She didn't. I only heard about the incident from my daughter when class got out that day. I just could not wait around for another more violent act against my daughter to take place and I went into the office and withdrew her from school immediately.
So dear ones...I am packing up my life again and moving to Oklahoma. Yes, it sounds crazy even to me. But my family lives there (after relocating there last year) and I really feel the need to be near to them once again after such an ordeal. We have found a sweet little house that seems the perfect place to find the peace and happiness that we were so hoping to have here in New Jersey. I will be sad to leave behind the friends I have made here but know that this is the right step for me to take in my life right now.
This week I will be doing my best to keep regular posts up here on Creature Comforts and then some incredibly generous blogging friends of mine will be writing a few guest posts to get us through the following week as I pack the moving truck and drive to Oklahoma. I thank you all in advance for your support and understanding. I will try my hardest to keep everything flowing as smoothly as possible here on CC during this process. xox Ez
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| by Ez Monday, March 22, 2010 
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i am so sad to read about the rough eight months you've just had, & admire you for being able to cope with it with the grace i've witnessed on your blog/twitter. it sounds like you're making the right decision, for both of you, & i wish you lots of luck & ease with your new transition!
What a load on your plate! I hope that the move to Oklahoma goes well and that you find it a much nicer place to be than where you are right now. And all you need to keep repeating to yourself is keep calm and carry on!
wow, ez, that is so much for one person to handle - stay strong and best wishes for you move. praying that everything will work out okay for you and your daughter :) x
Your home should be your Haven and it sounds like you have found the perfect new spot to start fresh and live in the happiness you both deserve. I hope you and your daughter can hear this HUGE community of people out here in blogger world cheering you along!!
oh my goodness ez..i am so incredibly sorry to hear about all of this. i'm glad you are taking control though and taking steps to make life better for you and your daughter. i'm sure oklahoma will be the perfect home for you both! good luck and take care of yourselves!!!!
My heart goes out to you in every way! I am so sorry for all that you have had to endure! Good for you for standing up and taking action. I hope that the move goes smoothly, and I am sure Oklahoma will be wonderful!! Big ((HUGS))
Hi Ez,
So sorry of your recent troubles, it's so unfair, and what happened to your daughter is simply scandalous.
I really admire you for your courage and the decision to pack your stuff and move on: definitely sounds like the right move to build something fresh and happy for you both! Not always our decisions in life bring us to happiness, it's just life. In those cases, when it's just not working, the best thing to do is... well, start over, with a smile if possible. I learnt from experience how difficult is to do this, so again well done and wish you all the best! :)
Ciao!
Take your time and know that we will all be here when you get back! I hope your move is a smooth and safe one and perhaps filled with some nice memories for you and your daughter. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade, right? Surely yours will be the sweetest kind!
I follow you here as you've been bookmarked as one of my "fave blogs." I'm so terribly sorry to hear of all of the horrible things that have been going on with you and your daughter! What an awful thing to have to deal with. I hope that she will be comfortable in her new school and that both of you will find peace and warmth in your new home. God bless you both, i'll be thinking about you!
What a lot you two gals have been through. I am SO GLAD to hear you're going to go be with your family. I'm sure their love will heal you ... hugs to you and your sweet little daughter.
that is a horrific story and i'm sorry to hear it. but don't give up on the east coast because of jersey... brooklyn is warm and welcoming and a lovely place to raise children. best of luck in oklahoma, i spent summers there as a kid and always had a blast. stay strong! your blog is rad!
Ez - how terrible. ohman. i can't believe the school still did nothing & said what they did about 6th grade, what?! unacceptable. you both will be in my thoughts, so glad that you are moving near family. i wish all the best for you & we all will be here when you get settled in, take your time!!! xoxoxo
I've never posted here before although I've been reading Creature Comforts for a couple of months now. I just had to pop in and say how sorry I am that things have been so rough and stressful for you lately. I totally understand the move you are making in an attempt to keep your daughter safe. I would do the same thing. I hope you will find your new home peaceful and restful and everything that you need it to be right now.
I'll say a prayer for you and your daughter. May you both find the strength and courage you need right now.
I'm new to your blog, but have enjoyed it very much. I'm so sorry to hear about all the problems you've been having, and so sorry especially to hear about what has been happening with your daughter. No one should be treated that way. It sounds like Oklahoma is the right step, and I applaud you for having the strength to pick up and move if things just aren't working out. Good for you, and best of luck!
hello ez,
i feel your distress. i hope your move to oklahoma will be as stress free and easy as can be. good luck and all the best!
Oh my goodness! No one should ever, ever have to go through what you and your daughter have been through these past few months. I'm thankful you're able to move closer to your family. I'll be thinking good thoughts for this new phase in your life! Best of luck for a safe and happy move.
I am so sorry to hear about all of this. But I am glad you guys will be able to move on to happier and healthier times! I will keep you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers!
Oh my, I hope everything works out in the end and going closer to family sounds like a great idea to me. I agree, you have to do what you feel is right...go with it. All my best and until next time when you come back and post :)
When it rains, it pours, doesn't it? So sorry to hear about this, but your new home in Oklahoma sounds magical... Good luck with the big move! : )
Come on, don't worry about the blogs, just take your time and get settled in!
It's a really difficult time for you and your daughter and it's good to do something, to change. Good luck with your move and new start. I stay tune.
Oh, Ez. I'm so sorry to hear all that you and your daughter have been going through. Oklahoma sounds like the perfect place for a fresh start, and I wish you two the best. Hang in there, things will be looking up soon! xo
Saying a little prayer for you and your little one. :) Good for you for taking the risk and doing what you feel is best for both of you. :) Here's to new and better and midwest! :)
What a horrible few months you've had, I'm so sorry to hear that. I'll be wishing you all the luck with your move and hope life starts to treat you and your daughter more kindly.
oh, how dreadful. sending good thoughts your way :)
xo Alison
I am so sorry to hear about your troubles. I wish you all the best on your move.