Curveball
Hello lovelies! I want to fill you in on the need for my emergency blog break last week. I won't be able to share every single detail because of time (and I really don't want to bore you all), but will do the best I can to explain.
To begin with, my daughter and I are moving again...in 7 days! We only found out just last week and I've been frantically trying to throw everything into boxes and tie up ends that I thought I'd have another 4 months to tie up. The background story is this:
Last Summer we moved across the country from our home in California to start what we hoped would be a fun and fresh start for us here on the East Coast. From day one things started to go wrong. First it was the black slime coming up into our kitchen sink making the room unusable. The fridge gave out shortly thereafter. Next it was the bathtub drain, and then nasty stuff started to come up our bathroom sink as well. From outside appearances this place is not a dump, so we had no idea what we were in for when we rented the place out. I wish that was the entirety of the situation. Unfortunately our apartment is also sandwiched in between two sets of unsavory neighbors that I wouldn't wish on anyone. On one side we are assaulted by the daily barrage of their screaming fights coupled by the strong scent of marijuana and cigarette smoke that seems to seep through our walls. Second (not as bad) is our neighbor who likes to wake me up early in the morning by ringing my doorbell incessantly until I answer...and then proceeds to go into tirades about the alarm system in her unit...asking if I ever hear it go off, etc, etc (completely nuts).
Next, I've been having some health issues that are making blogging/work very difficult and painful for me...and I strongly suspect that these are in great part due to the growing stress I've been under over the past 8 months.
Finally...and the reason for this sudden acceleration in our moving schedule (we were already planning to get out of here when the lease ended in July)...is that my daughter has been suffering from horrible bullying at her school. If you follow me on twitter then you know a bit about what has been going on for her. I've also just posted a more detailed infor in this post earlier today. Basically any attempts I've made to have the threats, verbal and emotional abuse stopped by the school went nowhere. The last straw came this past Tuesday when my daughter was thrown against the wall by a girl in her class. After she crumpled to the floor in pain a lunch aid came over to see what had happened and told my daughter that she would report the attack. She didn't. I only heard about the incident from my daughter when class got out that day. I just could not wait around for another more violent act against my daughter to take place and I went into the office and withdrew her from school immediately.
So dear ones...I am packing up my life again and moving to Oklahoma. Yes, it sounds crazy even to me. But my family lives there (after relocating there last year) and I really feel the need to be near to them once again after such an ordeal. We have found a sweet little house that seems the perfect place to find the peace and happiness that we were so hoping to have here in New Jersey. I will be sad to leave behind the friends I have made here but know that this is the right step for me to take in my life right now.
This week I will be doing my best to keep regular posts up here on Creature Comforts and then some incredibly generous blogging friends of mine will be writing a few guest posts to get us through the following week as I pack the moving truck and drive to Oklahoma. I thank you all in advance for your support and understanding. I will try my hardest to keep everything flowing as smoothly as possible here on CC during this process. xox Ez
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| by Ez Monday, March 22, 2010 
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oh, ez, i am so sorry to hear that. i hope everything will end well when you are moving nearer to your family. and i hope your little daughter will get over it. i know it is hard. i was a victim of mobbing in school myself though it wasn't called mobbing that days. it never goes that far as it does with your little one, but words can hurt much more than anything else. i think we all had/have some kind of experience. as long as she knows you are there having an open ear to her problems and encouraging her and also love her, she'll get over it. and i think you are that kind of person. so, i am keeping my fingers crossed. kind regards, amanda
I'm a fellow reader and Love your blog, and I just want to say That I'm sorry about those difficult 8 months for you and your daughter and hope everything get better because you deserve it!. another thing I'm glad you pulled your daughter out of school to prove that even if a whole system let's it happen you will still be by her side, trust me she will always remember that. When I was small I was also bullied, and when I told my mom of course she at first said tell a teacher or the principal, I did and only thing they did was tell the other kid to not bully, which encourage him to bullied me more! again I told my mom! and my mom told me, angry that the school didn't took bigger measure to stop this she told me "next time he hits you you'll hit back" and well I did that, made the other kid cry, was sent to the principal, mother got called in, when the principal told her what happened my mom said"oh she hit him?good I told her to do it if he bullied her again, since you guys didn't do nothing, so I'll stand by her" she hug me I got send back to class full of pride of my mom and that kid never bullied me again.
wishing you the best
I hope your daughter is ok! I can't believe the school is not doing anything. I wish you all the best on your move.
i'm sorry to hear about what you and your daughter have been going through... it's been a rough year for you both. hopefully it will only get better. good luck with the move!
Hugs and kisses to both you and K, Ez. I'm so sorry about all the awful crap you've had to deal with and I hope your move goes smoothly and your new home offers you the comfort and ease you both deserve.
It's horrendous that the school didn't do/hasn't done anything about bullying. I am completely at a loss to understand. What would've happened to your daughter if you weren't such a strong advocate for her? What will happen to these bullies if they're allowed to continue on like this?
I admire what you're doing and hope that you find what you're looking for in Oklahoma. xo and good luck with the move.
Wow! I am so sorry to hear about all the trouble you and your daughter have been through! You know, the "moving" bug must be going around because I know a few of my friends that are moving or have moved to the South from the North within these past few months.
I tell you, these days are so hard for everyone now. If it's not financial, it's physical or emotional. I hope you and your daughter will be ok. Since you will be closer to your family, it will work out for the best. Once you take the emotion out and look at the situation from the outside-in, moving on is usually the best option. Stay strong and be safe girls!
Take your time...we will all be sitting here waiting when you get things straightened out! Good luck and I hope the best for your daughter as well. No fun being bullied and it isn't right. TTFN!
Good luck + all the necessary blassings for you and your daughter!!! I'll keep coming back here, waiting patiently for you to sort your things out:-)
Oh dear! I'm so sorry to hear about your awful ordeal. My thoughts are with you. Things should be better in the midwest, and especially with family around. Take care and good luck with your move!
So sorry about everything. Please don't feel like you have to keep the blog going for us in the midst of a huge move! It's okay to take a break :) As much as I enjoy reading your blog, your health and sanity are more important!
Hi Ez, I rarely comment but I wanted to send you positive vibes and good wishes. I admire your strength to take the high road, even though it might not be the easiest, and to seek out happiness and safety for your daughter and yourself. Best of luck with your move!
Ez - what happened to your daughter is crazy! it makes me sad when schools should be advocating for anti bullying policies but they are apathetic instead. i hope you and your daughter will be much happier in oklahoma, sounds like you've had a really rough time.
EZ, best of luck with your move. I admire your decisive action on behalf of you and your daughter. Stay strong.
Saying a prayer for you and your daughter, keep your chin up!!
Oh dear! Despite the terrible situation here, your proactive approach seems to be bringing you much peace, which is great. I'm sure your family will be equally happy to have you back, too! Take care and good luck with the transition home.
I'm so sorry that you had such a tough time! I hope everything works out for your new adventure :)
I was just fiddling trough My twitter when I saw your twit about closing your shop so sorry to hear that and as a Mom I feel for you really .You and your daughter will be in my prayers I am also hoping you get close to your family some peace ,warmth and love with them also heal from all this ordeal you have to go trough
All the best with your move. It sounds like you've been through an awful time. Hope it gets alot better!
xx
what a shame -- good luck. I've only recently found your blog and shop.
Ez- I'm so sorry for all the horrible things you and your daughter have been going through. Your family is in my prayers and I hope you find peace in OK :)
So sorry to hear everything you & your daughter have been dealing with. Don't worry about the blog! We'll all be here waiting. :)
Goodness Ez, I'm so sorry this all happened to you at once! I hope you find peace and wide open skies in OK and the open arms of family will certainly help ease your transition. Wishing you a safe and as stress free as possible move! You're doing the right thing. I hope you find a place you can truly feel comfortable with and make your home soon. Much love!
<3 jena
wow, I have JUST started reading your blog and I am so touched by your story. I hope everything works out best for you and your daughter and I am happy to hear that you are removing yourselves from that horrible situation. I think living near family is extremely important, no matter where they are (my hubby and I are living far away from ours and we are hoping to get close to them soon)
Oh biz. As sad as it is to see you guys go, you know how happy I am to know that you'll soon have another chance at finding real happiness. I can't wait to hear all about your new home - I have a really good feeling about this one!!! Working on NP has been an amazing experience, I will surely miss goofin' off with you the most. We'll always have Erasure, spiral stairs to the stockroom and the fireman's pole... oh if they only knew :) BTW, the seedling and I are holding you to your promise, so I know we'll see you again real soon! Here's to new beginnings... xo Marichelle (sniff sniff)
PS. I'm sure we'll find a way to work together again on more exciting projects!! Never say never! And please remember... anything is possible!!